Does Saying I Don’t Want to Live with My Husband Count as Divorce Request?
Hanafi Fiqh
Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Question
I told my husband I no longer want to live with him out of frustration after he left me for months. Does this count as a request for divorce?
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate.
I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question. I am sorry to hear about your situation.
This request does not count as a request for divorce but as an initial discussion point for it.
Divorce Is a Serious Issue
Divorce is serious. Our religion has important rules, and we need to learn about them. Hasty decisions can lead to problems, while thoughtful consideration is a virtue from Allah, as the Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) taught us.
Due to the sensitivity of this situation, I advise you both to consult local scholars—reliable, pious, and wise individuals who understand family and community dynamics and can help make the marriage work.
Allah (Most High) destines what is good for you. Pray istikhara for guidance and the Prayer of Need on this issue and ask Allah (Most High) to destine what is good (khayr) for you.
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I pray this helps with your question.
Wassalam,
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Mawlana Ilyas Patel has received traditional education in various countries. He started his schooling in the UK and completed his hifz of the Quran in India. After that, he joined an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied secular and Aalimiyya sciences. Later, he traveled to Karachi, Pakistan, and other Middle Eastern countries to further his education. Mawlana has served as an Imam in the Republic of Ireland for several years and taught the Quran and other Islamic sciences to both children and adults. He also worked as a teacher and librarian at a local Islamic seminary in the UK for 12 years. Presently, he lives in the UK with his wife and is interested in books and gardening.
